It seems like such a daunting age. It means you're officially an adult through and through in every continent of the world. You have or are about to graduate uni - if you went to uni - or you're in a committed relationship and suddenly, marriage is on your mind (trust me, I've seen this a lot for some reason). But, at the age of 21, it means that you still have no idea who you are. At least in my case, that is.
Knowing who you are doesn't have to come right away, I've learned that, most definitely. So, here are twenty-one lessons I've learned, things I've loved, places I adored in my twenty-one years of life (in no particular order).
- You don't have to know what you want just yet.
I've always panicked at the thought of not having my life together. But it's okay if you don't. My life is just beginning and yours is too.
- The gym and healthy eating is not only good for your physique but for your mental health.
I've always detested the gym but it makes me feel so much better about myself. I've learned to utilize what I have and now I'm trying to make a habit out of it.
- Going out with friends is a stress reliever.
They'll make you laugh, you'll have a good cry, and maybe you'll vent. Know that by the end you'll feel much lighter.
- You WILL grow throughout your life, no matter what.
You don't realize it, but it's happening. What happened in high school now seems insignificant and what will happen tomorrow won't matter in ten years because you will have grown, changed, and learned from it.
- Contact family. Keep in touch with them. Don't take them for granted.
I still have trouble with this one seeing as how I don't make those weekly phone calls, or even monthly. But I do know I have to keep trying.
- Friends come and go.
- You don't have to be friends with someone forever. I've learned to appreciate every single person I've come into contact with and learned that it's alright if they don't stay.
- Depression doesn't define me.
I've never let it try to define me, but sometimes it takes over. And in those moments, it's okay if it does, but only if for a moment. It doesn't describe you as a person, but just a little chemical imbalance in your brain.
- Travel. Travel. Travel.
I never knew how delicious traveling can be. If you have the opportunity, then travel will always be my number one reccomendation. Visit Santorini, Rome, London, Florence... anywhere you can, go. It will be the best thing to ever happen to you.
- The word 'fat' is merely a descriptive word.
I've let that word define me most of my life. They say you are your own worst critic, and that's what I did. I critiqued myself, my body and I threw the word fat around and to myself as if it was a gun. It pierced me, ripped open old and new wounds, and the result would be a bubbling mess. But fat is used to describe something. I HAVE fat.... it doesn't have to be me.
- A Court of Mist and Fury
A young adult novel by Sarah J. Maas. Practically killed me. I loved it. I'm obsessed with it. It's my new favorite book and I can't get enough of it.
- Gilmore Girls
Seven seasons and I've seen it five times in my 21 years. Three times just recently. It's a timeless classic, I can tell you that because it never gets old.
- Do the things you love.
Write. Read. Photograph something. Film anything. Listen to music. Make music. Exercise. Surf. Snowboard. Create something. Solve something. Whatever it is, make time to do those things because it is beneficial to your growth and health.
- It's not that deep.
Literally. Nothing is ever that deep. You'll learn that some things you shouldn't worry so much about because they won't affect you.
- You're not the only one with insecurities.
I have to remember that I'm not the only one with body image issues, or self esteem issues, or anything. There are others who struggle just as bad as me, even worse.
- It's okay to like a boyband...and it's okay for others to like that same boyband.
I'm mostly shamed by this one...will never live it down. Ihatehighschool.
- If you're in a toxic situation, leave.
It's the best thing to do for your mental health. I haven't mastered this one yet because there is something so daunting about confronting troubled situations.
- Love the fact that you're getting an education.
Be blessed, devour everything. The knowledge you gain is forever expanding. Use it, love it, and then learn more.
- Believe in something. Believe in yourself.
Believing in something, anything, even yourself, is a great anchor. Go back to it and breathe in the fact that you are here and that there is someone rooting for you... yourself.
I love fandoms... Harry Potter, High School Musical, Harry Styles, Vanessa Hudgens, One Direction, Sailor Moon, Doctor Who. Immerse youself in one.
- Love yourself.
Point blank. Put yourself first, it's okay if you do. Learn that loving yourself isn't narcissistic but beneficial.
It's not everything, believe me, but it's some. Every day, I am changing and every day I'm getting closer to trying to figure out what my life is worth. It's a slow journey and a long process but I'm sure it'll be worth it.
Here's to being 21. Still young and never ancient.